How Do I Save My Marriage

i’ve been married to my husband for 10years, we have 1 child aged 4.5 years. although i love him and he loves me there is no desire to be passionate anymore. what can both do together that will help to rekindle our feelings?

Best Answer: Once the lust of new love starts to diminish, reality sets in, but that’s not a bad thing either. You and your husband have made it to 10 years, by today’s standards that’s a life time.

Passion, desire, lust, intimacy and everything else in a marriage needs to be worked at everyday, like a business you can’t just leave it and not work on it.

Remember what brought you together, start from the beginning again. Start going on dates, start taking and making plans for the future. Reintroduce romance and be more experimental, buy erotic books, toys or movies. Do things out of your comfort zones, not just in the bedroom. Go skydiving, bungee jumping, snorkling, camping, sleep under the open sky.

The family that plays together, stays together!

• you BOTH have to want a marriage to work in order for it to work …… just trying to be a good spouse but not taking care of your own needs harms the marriage by making you have no self confidence and no respect from your spouse.You have to find the common bonds you still have deep inside and have common goals and hope that this outweighs the hurt your spouse holds towards your marriage.My wife of ten years left me this week and I have thought before we would get divorced and I went out and started living like I was 24 again and low and behold she fell back in love with me ….
  she had our first son in July and has seperation anxiety from working and I just didn’t realize how bad and I have been so focused on bills that I forgot about her having a fullfilled life and then I tried to shock her back into loving me again and she got so scared she took my son 1000 miles away.Everyone’s situation is different.I wish I could offer a quick fix,but relationships are fickle and none are perfect.I think if you can get enough good to outweigh the bad in life that that is a good basis for justifying staying together.Takes alot of work,patience and forgiveness
• Most couples are the same as you, the fire on the early passion dwindles, but as you still love each other that is all you need to worry about.
• first of all get someone to look after your child…..then book a romantic break…..have a romantic meal…..massage each other…..dress up……just relax and enjoy
• go on a romantic vacation and talk about your feelings over a nice dinner and drinks.
• im not trying to be rude, but try having sex in your car in a full parking lot. do it at night &you gotta be real sneaky, and that’s where the team effort comes in. seriously this can rekindle some stuff that you guys lost. If you’re too scared to try this, then try taking some cooking classes together. the purpose of the cooking class is to bring you guys together to work past the challenge of preparing a recipe and then at the end you can enjoy it all.
• go for a jog and get fit
• You both need to plan a romantic get away just for the two of you…
  If that is not possible to get away, get rose petals and spread them all over your bedroom and bathroom, draw a bubble bath for two, get some wine cook a nice dinner his favorite foods, and put on a nice gown that won’t stay on long.

  also get some body massage oil to give one another a massage with, nothing more relaxing than this, I bet by the end of the night the passion will be rekindled between the two of you.

  also leave little love notes in your husband car, around where he will find them.. We tend to get into a rut when we are married for so long and think that we now need to date our partner any longer this is not true.. Plan dates with your hubby like you did prior to marriage and having a child..

  Getting married and having children does not mean that the passion must end.

  Best of Luck………

• I just finished my divorce after 7 years married and 10 years together. All I can say is find a sitter that can stay for a week, then take a vacation alone. Go some where that the two of you don’t know anyone. Then have fun with each other but most of all talk. Find those things that fist made you fall in love with each other. Once you get back get the book “The Five Love Languages” take time to read it together and find a sitter so that at lest once a month you can do a date night.

  Good Luck

  Bushido

• get a copy of
  Mars & Venus in the bedroom
  by John Grey
  and both read it
• go one like a vaction without the kids and have fun
• Try role playing. This would give you a since of adventure and let you and your husband have some sexual fun together.

  Also try not to turn your nose up, let him know that you are basically down for what ever. Remember if you won’t some other woman will : )

  This is a great way to rekindle a relationship/married that is on the rocks.

• I feel for you babe im in the same boat after 25 long years. I feel passionate all the time she doesnt.An amazing woman with a headache or stomach ache that lasts 365 days a year every year . Should be in the Guinness book of records