How Do I Save My Marriage

Hi, my girlfriend and I got a secret marriage done, we got it done in the islamic way, and we have been married for about 2 weeks now, but last week she asked me for a divorce.

The reason is i created a fake email account where I pretended to be one of my ex gf to make her a little jealous, i know that’s bad of me to do, but she would go on and on about the different guys that have proposed to her, and how great they are and how successful they are and it would make me burn inside and make me feel very bad, and jealous that she got so much attention and I got nothing.

What happened is that she thought it was my actual ex, and emailed her behind my back pretending to be me, and saying how there is still a chance, my wife found out it was me all along and got upset and said she cant trust me and respect me for what I did and how she cant be with someone who gets jealous of her, so she asked for a divorce.

I believe that she was wrong for going behind my back and emailing when we agreed to not email that fake account and the matter would of died there…in my religion the man can give the divorce, I believe this marriage can still work but she has not picked up my calls for 5 days…I need advice, do I leave her, can this work out or not?

I don’t want to lose my wife, I love her a lot, that’s why I married her.

Best Answer: If you told her the same thing you are explaining to us and she is still making a huge deal about it to the point she wants a divorce, I’d say she doesn’t love you enough to forgive you. And if she talks about how other guys proposed to her etc… I believe she doesn’t value you. It’s her fault you did this in the first place. If she insists on a divorce, “Good Riddance”. You’ll eventually find someone who loves you and values you. Someone who doesn’t play with marriage.

• Immaturity should never be brought into a relationship.A secret wedding, phony e-mail, all signs of two 16 year olds getting together after school. Quit now while you can and get married when you both are old enough to make adult decisions. Man or woman, I don’t care what you have between your legs, get a divorce and get mature!
• Playing games in a marriage wil never ever work out.

  Hence the situation you’re in.

  Talk to her NOW and let her know why you did it and never give her reason to doubt your fidelity again.

  Use your brain dude!

• If you really love her – leave her be. As I said previously. Real love is wanting the other person to be happy even if he/she does not include you in their life. That is true, unselfish love. It sadly escapes most.
• All this only two weeks after you got married? It seems you were nto ready at all to be married. You had so much to work out first.
• yall just need to grow up you seem like uve learned your lesson dont do stupid **** and as for her if she wants a divorce over thats then a. shes really insecure and b. she cant love you too much
• You love her a lot, that’s why you married her, then the both of you go sneaking around behind each others backs, looking for a place to stick the shivs. Normally, I hold that marriage is like the reinforced concrete that holds the Ft. Knox gold depository together, but you two are a real pair.

  Aren’t you two living together as wife and wife? She can’t be with someone who gets jealous of her? What does she expect a wife to do? Neither of you have never been married to a woman before, have you?

  From the sound of it this marriage is probably toast. Being a gay union it’s in a gray area of what your legal responsibilities are to each other. Either get a marriage counselor and find out if things can be fixed, or get a lawyer.

  And GROW UP! People who love each other don’t do things to make each other jealous in the first place. They only do things that make each other happy.

• Well I hate to be the one to tell you but your not a good liar and your wife knows that is why she didn’t believe you, that was you all along.
  What kind of husband would do some dumb shitt like that?? You setted yourself up with that one. My best advice would be to own up to your mistake tell her the honest truth cause no one in their right mind would believe such a story like that. So she can at least say well you did tell her the truth and rebuild the trust again the right way instead upon lies after lies.
• Why were false e-mail accounts made to create unnecessary problems? Why is the word “divorce” the first option before anything else?

  If you have married and you both want to honour that commitment then you should both try to sort this issue out by communicating. Perhaps try couple counselling if that is an option for you both.