How Do I Save My Marriage

I truly love my husband (He’s 31, I’m 35) and have done so for almost 12 years now I have a problem of my own doing and it seems to continue to snowball out of control.

My friend from childhood who was close to me told me about her strange marriage and how sexually empowering for her.

He husband brings home another man to have sex with her, and he watches only and get off thanking his wife.
I thought it strange but I wanted to spice up the sex a bit so I asked my husband would this be something that he might like to watch?

He simply told me NO and why even ask, well I told him what my friends do and thought he would like it.
He got clever and said would you watch me have sex with another woman?
Well I set it up and all I could do was watch I could not leave I had to watch GOD I HATED IT!
Well after a few months thing are quit cold here my husband has even asked me if I was happy if not maybe we need to divorce.

I don’t want a divorce I want to get over this HOW?

Best Answer: You reap what you sow, things can never be the same again, no matter how much you try, sometimes we have to accept the bitter truth of the consequences brought on by careless actions.

• Why do you bring your friend affair to your marriage. You better do all you can to save you marriage before it too late. dont tempt you man. Love him as he his and dont put ideas in his head. /good men are not easy to come by. So i suggest you start by tying to get is attension back, gift, niece dressing, making him happy, doing things for him. You know your man and what he likes so give it to him and it will be fine. Just stay positive.
• your husband an ******** and has no respect to the fact that you were just trying to please him!!!! i think you should email me and we ccan chat more
• You walked right into that one! Your husband put the shoe on the other foot to teach you a lesson albeit a very harsh one but one to stop you from trying it again.

  It’s time to take stock of your marriage and not beg your husband for forgiveness but tell him you accept you did wrong and you love him and want to move on with rebuilding your marriage to what it once was.

• Sorry, but what else did you expect to happen?? You are the one who wanted to bring other people into your bed, and now you’re upset because things got all messed up. Did you really expect him to actually want to see you screw another man?? You’re his wife, and you offered to whore yourself out.. as a way to “spice things up”?! That’s not only messed up, but it’s also disgusting. It sounds to me, like his being with another woman, was more of a way to get back at you for suggesting it to begin with. I think he did it to hurt you, and hurt you bad. Well, it sounds like it did the job.. and I’m sorry, but it’s really all something you brought on yourself.

  Did you really think that it would be a good idea to sleep with someone else like that?? I just don’t understand how anyone who “says” they love their spouse, can be so interested in sharing their body with someone else. That is not love.. not in any way. That’s absolutely repulsive, and I would imagine that any decent man would lose any and all respect for his wife if she were to suggest such a thing.

  I realize that you’re feeling hurt, and you want things to go back to the way they were.. but you started this whole mess, and as it usually does.. it may very well lead to the end of your marriage. Hopefully, if nothing else.. you’ve at least learned something through all this.. and you won’t make the same mistake twice.

  True, he didn’t have to go and sleep with that woman.. and it was wrong of him to do so, but it’s really all on you. I mean, you started the whole thing.. now look where it got you.

  Either way, your marriage is in serious trouble.. Your marriage couldn’t have been all that great to begin with if you were so into the idea of sleeping with another man. You’ve obviously got some serious issues to work on. I don’t know if you’ll ever be able to have a good marriage now.. but I suppose it’s possible.

  Personally, I don’t think your marriage is going to last.. but you never know. It will definately take a lot of work, from both of you. I guess the main thing is, can you trust each other again??

• You were wrong in the first place, and why did you set it up? Of course your husband would now want to know if you should get a divorce because he now thinks your not happy cause you were wanting to have sex with another man. Not everything is the same for men. Maybe your friend thinks her husband likes it, he might be seeing someone on the side and just wants to feel better about his wrong doings by watching her with another man. Maybe there is something else that your husband fantasise about. Gently persuade him to tell you what it is and surprise him with doing it one night. For now spoil him and make him feel like he is “THE MAN” Men wants to hear how big they are and that they are the only one that knows how you want it.

  It’s gonna take a lot for your husband to be the same again, was tis other woman a friend of your? Do you still hang out together?

• You did it, you set it up, you watched it, he told you he didn’t want you to have sex with another man, but he was willing to do another women.
  What the h*ll is up with that.
  Now you are unhappy cause he slept with another women that you set up, okay what is done is done now you are the only one that can deal with it.
  Talk to him tell him how it has made you feel. Maybe your husband can help you deal with it better than anyone else cause he lives with you and knows you better.
  He did what you asked he could have stopped it but he didn’t.
• How many versions of this stupid tale must we endure? Non-crazy people who respect one another and who are romantically involved do not do this sort of thing. Why would they when they are really interested in one another and respect one another?
• All you did when you gave him another broad, is advise him that you can’t do it all by yourself! You obviously don’t know how to make love to your husband and if you don’t know how to make love to him physically, then you don’t know how to mentally and emotionally.

  That will ruin any marriage, because that isn’t marriage! A married couple with true love could never do that. I have no idea how you could fix a scar like that.

• WOW , Maybe its your turn to be watched