How Do I Save My Marriage

I have been married for 8 yrs and have a son that is 6 yrs old. Our marriage has suffered a great deal exspcially over the last year. He told me last week that his feeling have changed for me. He has spent the last week and half trying to figure out his feelings. I CANT loose my husband. I love him soooooooooooo much. I was married before, and I NEVER had the feeling I feel for my husband now. He is my heart and soul.

Best Answer: I support you in your desires to save the marriage!!!
Check out the site in the source list, they have some really good ideas on what to do.
You may want to find a copy of Dr. Lauras book about feeding and nurturing your husband as well, it sounds like it has some good ideas..

• i know what you are going through, but at least he told you that his feelings had changed. my husband up and left taking with him everything that we bought together. he changed his cell and i dont know where he is. i was hurt and angry at first and now i am just devistated because i cant believe it has gotten this far. we had a rocky six month period and i asked him to go to counseling but he wouldn’t. you may not like his response, but at least you got an answer. go to counseling…drag him!!!
• I am going through the very same thing. Its very hard to go through. I cant stress “very hard” enough. Its something that you never thought you would be in again in your life, that’s why you got married, right?

  But, when it comes down to it….you cant make another love you. No matter what you do. I’m sorry for you that you have to feel these feelings that your going through now, but, once again, you cant make another love you the way you want. Its a sad story, I know, and I don’t know what to tell you of how to get through it or over it. Its not easy.

• hahah the first womans answer made me laugh with the pow wow wow…haha but back to you dear i am soooo sorry that all this is happening to you the best thing i can encourage you to do is talk to him and tell him the way you feel. I’ve been married for 5 years, and let me tell you there has been many nights that I’ve cried to my husband just letting my pouring my heart out so he will be aware that yes times may be hard, we may fight, i may fuss about him making a mess in the house, or not always helping with my son austin’s diapers or feedings but no matter what i love him…and tell your husband that you are married and that means working things out!
• pow wow time.

  get our the dirt and be completely open and honest with eachother.
  why have his feelings changed? does it have something to do with your behaviour? have things changed?

  after you figure this out then you need to discuss whether it’s worth saving or not.

  then how do you save it?

• I partially agree with Sara, look at what has made the marriage so routing and see if that is what both of you want. You may be comfortable in that situation but it has gotten boring.. for him. what do you both want! Once that is decided then you can work towards it.
• Watch the movie fireproof – together. Not the best movie making quality, but great for marriage. Look for the movie at anyplace that rents/sells DVDs.

  http://www.fireproofmymarriage.com/

• see if the person will go to counseling with you….I do wish you luck but he needs to be willing to fix things….ask him whats wrong..
• I guess he is not in love with you!
• I know by the time I’ve typed out all I want to say a lot of people will have answered, but it doesn’t matter. Here we go.
  Tell your husband that you want to know what’s on his mind – don’t worry about the little things right now, just talk about what’s jeaprodizing your marriage. I’ve heard it said that marriage is a series of falling in and out of love – it will suffer. Just be supportive, don’t turn him into a villian, and don’t yet upset. Try to talk, as I said before, but don’t make him talk. Keep being a great wife – you may have to carry a little more weight for a while, but it’s worth it if it saves your marriage. Also, pray about it. Pray for him every day; your love for him will grow and if you get right with God everything will fall into place. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” That’s what you do. I hope it turns out, I’ll be praying. God Bless,
  Aimee