How Do I Save My Marriage

I value chastity and only want to have sex with my future husband. (I’m not a marriage crazy young woman; but I value morals and family). However, I made a couple of mistakes in the beginning by having sex with my first and second boyfriends. I didn’t have sex for more than 3 months, so I’m wondering, since I’m not a virgin but am abstinent now (I’m 28), will a guy call me a hypocrite for wanting to wait? One of the reasons for wanting to wait is that both of my former relationships were based on sex for the guy, and there was virtually little wait time before we became intimately involved. I learned that these former boyfriends only wanted to hang with me for my body and face. They did not value me as a human being. I have a great deal of self esteem and respect for myself now, and I don’t want to make the same mistake of falling into a sex-centered relationship. The trouble is that every guy I date pressures me for sex on the first date. When I say “no” and that I want to wait, they never want to see me again or try to pressure me even more, all the while acting like jerks.

I value sex and want to be treated as a human being, who is responsible, lovable, and intelligent. How do I let guys know that I am saving myself without seeming like a hypocrite (for not being a technical virgin)?

Best Answer: No I’d be pissed , good luck explaining that sh*t to some guy. Let me get this straight your ex boyfriends got to fck you and leave you , now I don’t get any and I have to suffer because they used you for sex , and sex only , so you automatically think Im going to do the same. She would have to much drama for me. I think I speak for 98% of guys on when I say we need sex in a relationship!

• Just explain your story, when you meet a guy who really is interested in settling down in the near future and likes you, he will understand.
• its called born again virgin sweetie.
  just say that and explain why to them
  if they care they’ll wait around.