How Do I Save My Marriage

What are some ways I can cope?

Best Answer: The initial discovery of an extramarital affair can trigger a range of powerful emotions for both partners — shock, rage, shame, depression, guilt, remorse. Both members of the couple may cycle through all of these emotions many times in a single day — one minute vowing to end the marriage and the next wanting desperately to save it. At this point, it’s important to take one step at a time:

Get support. For your own well-being, seek support from family, friends, a pastor or counselor — people you trust and feel comfortable with. Talking about your feelings with those you love can help you cope with the intensity of the situation. Objective support can help you clarify what you’re feeling and put the affair into perspective. However, avoid confiding in people who you know will take sides — this tends to increase the emotional intensity of the situation.
Give each other some space. Both partners need a break from the emotional stress generated by the discovery of an affair. Although difficult, experts advise taking a “timeout” when emotions are running high.
Take time. Avoid delving into the intimate details of the affair with your partner at first. Postpone such discussions until you can talk without being overly accusatory or destructive. Take time to absorb the situation. You may need to air out your feelings with someone who is a good listener before you can have a constructive conversation with your spouse.

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• Men are not perfect human being. Us as women we all make mistakes and we are not perfect and we all want is a perfect marriage, If you love the man you are still married too. At least give your marriage and him a second Chance. If you both can’t talk to each other about this or cope. Then go to a marriage counselor and get the help for the both of you. Most men and women cheat when they are not satisfied or what something done in love making and can’t get it with their spouse’s that they look for someone who will.always ask what they want in sex and let them take control in love making so they won’t need to cheat.
• Your husband should be trying to save the marriage … Not you.
  Go to marriage counseling with him. See how that goes. But I would find it really hard to trust him ever again. And who’s to say that he won’t do it again? Once a cheater always a cheater. There are no excuses to justify his behavior ~ None!
  I would get a divorce and leave him in the dust you can do so much better, no one will look at you strange cause you got married then divorced. Just do it for your sanity! You will always be thinking that he is out doing someone else if you stay!
• At the end of the day, after you have gone through all the range of emotions that an affair brings….you need to ask yourself: Can I forgive him? Can I accept this and move on with my marriage?
  If the answer to these questions is yes, and your husband feels the same, then the marriage is worth saving.
  If he does not care, then he is not worth being married to any more.
• Leave now so that you don’t regret it later. STDs are waiting. You don’t want to be in your later years regreting you stayed with this loser. One year into a marriage wow the honeymoon is not even over and he’s figured that you are not enough for him. Wait until youve been together for 5-10 years when he’s really tired of you. Get out now while your young and can still find some real happiness in a relationship. Dro the Zero and get yourself a Hero.
• That is between you and yourself, and your faith. Can you forgive and move on and work together? … or will it always bother you and become an obsticle. The good news is that you do not have to decide today. Figure out what is your bottom line. Whagt will he do to regain your trust, he needs to be an active participant in healing the marraige.

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• if your truely love him the try your best. but if he isnt bothered dont waste your time on him.
• Why bother? He proved he doesn’t love you, might as well move on.
  A year…jeez, what a dirtbag.
• Hes goin to keep on doing it. Get a divorce and move on he olbviosly dont love u.
• After only a YEAR? HELL NO.
• if he is not being entertained by u and has to or want to look else where then , CURB HIM !
• he will keep doing it
• i wouldnt. he knew wat he was doing yet he chose to do it n e way..