How Do I Save My Marriage

I’m currently having this argument with my friends here at work and need different thoughts on the subject.

Best Answer: because women are more mature. and most of the time have more heart and love than a man does. not saying that all men are heartless or thoughtless when it comes to saving their marriage. its just that women are more involved emotionally. just my opinion

• I don’t know the statistics on this, but if this were the case I don’t think it’s that men are less interested. I think it’s because women are more vocal about it. Men deal with emotions differently than women and even at this day and age, women face/deal with emotions more often (in general). Also women are more honest and open about being less afraid of being vulnerable. Men are in general more logical as well, so if it doesn’t work they are less likely to keep moving towards a dead end.
• My goodness, everything I have seen and felt for the last couple of years just came to a screeching halt.

  NOT!

  Everyone I know who has been separated or got a divorce, including me, the man has done everything possible to save the marriage. NOT the woman, from what I have seen It was always the woman’s idea and her stubbornness to carry it all the way through.

  Sorry I cannot help you much but I have never seen or heard of what you are asking except on lifetime tv. I am not saying by any means though that it does not actually happen. It is just that I have never seen it or heard of it.

  I hope this helps although it probably will not but God Bless anyway.

• Its not. My husband had an affair and when I found out he lost it. He cried and begged and told me that he wanted to work things out. I had my reservations of course. He is the one that wanted to go to counseling and he is the one that made the appointment. Its going well. Women are not always the ones that want to work. Something like 95% of all engagement are initiated by men but 90% of all divorces are initiated by women.
• Cause usually a woman is the one in the marriage who hasn’t done something wrong that caused it to be ending in the first place! Not always true, but most the time. We marry with our whole hearts and realize that we are giving up most of our independent self to become one with someone else, men on the other hand Only give up living alone when they get married. Not all but most. So they still like to hold onto a little of that single life, and that is what gets them into trouble.
• There are men too. I am one of them. My vow was not just to my wife it was to God. I have been standing for my marriage for some time and I will continue to stand because my vow was until death. What good is my word if I give up one the one person I vowed to love for life.
• That’s not an accurate description of things. My feel is that you are generalizing. I have seen many, many questions from men here interested in saving their marriage.

  Generalizations hurt. Stay away from them.

• Because most men don’t think it is fixable until the woman tells him other wise. Why work it out if you already think it hopeless or over.
• Not always.

  Sorry to say nothing left to work on.

• Very sad.
• Not me.
  Been there twice.
  Bailed both times. I don’t like being married, it turns out.