How Do I Save My Marriage

What do you do if your husband gives 90% of his paycheck to his family and gives you only $50 a week?he loves me and he loves his family but since I’m his wife I am first priorities right?We are broke and recently filing for bankruptcy but his family is wealthy they don’t need our money.Well my problem is I don’t want to lose my husband what can be done?I ask him to give them 50% of his check not 90% and now I am labeled as a gold digger to his family.What to do?

Best Answer: hes married to you .. you should definitily be his first priority.. you need to tell him that you need enough money to survive its not his job to give money to his family they should get money for their own families and not take it form your husband… youre definitly not a gold digger for that.. the family isjust jealous

• Go out, Get a job
  Keep all the money except for like bills, dr visits etc.,
  Even if its just a cashier at mcdonalds
  Tell his Family that you wud like some respect
  If all else fails, leave him and find someone more willing to help you
• That is probably why he is “giving” 90% to his family – to fool the creditors.
• What do you mean, “his family”? You are his family now. Get that through his head or walk. If he’s like that now, he always will be.
• Leave him.

I am catching a bus to va, on friday to save my marraiage.
I am borrowing money from family,

Me and my husband has been apart for 3 years now.
We had a big fight in september and not communicating at all
So one day I recieve some documents from his lawyer

He wants me to sign a separation agreement
I am refusing because, I still love him very much
We talked last week, really I could still the hate in
his voice.

But we talked, I could not talk to long
because I was at work then he was like bye then
I felt he was trying to reach out, but I was at work

The next day I recieve a email telling me he met
someone else after we had that fight
And he doesnt want to be with me anymore
I believe it was a lie, because he did reach out
to me but I didn’t have time for him

Should I go to VA and talk to him about how
I still love him and long distance relationships
are hard and if he made any mistakes I would
forgive him

I need to have closeure on this matter.

Best Answer: As the wedding singer says “Why do you want to dance with someone who doesnt want to dance with you?”.

Its plainly obvious that your husband doesn’t want to be with you and that he is too cowardly to tell that to you straight so he legally went for it – but he will find time to talk to you because he doesnt want to hurt you anymore than you are hurting now. Not ebcause he loves you – he doesnt Love you – he just doesnt want you to hurt too much.
If you jump on a bus to go and see him will he be there? Does he know you are coming? Are you going to be seen as stalking him?
Yes – long distance relationships are hard so what’s going to happen? Are you gong to come back home and everything will go back to how bad it was?

He’s seeing (to) someone else, you can hear the hate in his voice, and you “Felt” he was trying to reach out (which is soemthing you “Felt” but didnt actually KNOW), and he sends you legal separation documents. How much more closure do you want???

Its obvious that however much you tell him you love him it’s not going to change the fact that he’s not in love with you any more and he wants to get on with his life. Do you realise that you are being selfish in wanting him so much that you want him to give up a part of how he now feels just to make you happy? WHats the long term prospect here??

Leave him alone, save your money, and stay home. Find yourself a new man, someone with whom life won’t be as hard.

• It seems like you put other things before him. If he was reaching out to you when you were at work you should have talked for as long as he needed. You said that he reached out to you, but you didn’t have time for him. Always make time for him. He needs to know that you will be there for him. I think that you really need to go see him. Don’t blame him for everything. I don’t know what all happened, but he might be looking for an apology from you instead of forgivness from you. I hope you can save your marriage.
• he said he has met someone else so let him go he told you he didn’t want to be with you anymore.
• Go for it. A marriage is something to work for.
• I guess you need closure so go and resolve this and if he is already involved with someone else you will have to accept and tell him its time for a divorce. But if he loved you he wouldnt have left you go for 3 years. Good luck

My wife and I knew each other for 11 years but were barely friends. We reuinited, dated for two months, we decided to get married. (yes we rushed into things but that is not my question).

I had a psycho ex-gf in the past who has assaulted me and stabbed me with a kitchen knife several years ago. I got her arrested for domestic violence.

When my current wife gets depressed, she starts mutilating her wrists with knives. One day we got into a fight and she starts hitting me. I called the cops on her not cuz she hit me but cuz I was afraid she was gonna pull a knife on herself. She got arrested for domestic violence and to this day, she holds it against me.

We are going to get counseling and go to church so we can avoid a sticky divorce. How else can I restore our happiness? Please help! I admitted my faults that I should have not called the cops. Now I am paying for a pricy lawyer.

Best Answer: Other than going to therapy and church there isn’t much you can do.

You need to bring up her self mutilation in therapy though….as well as the divorce…if you get one. Obviously she is part of the problem also and she needs to admit that to herself…

Good luck. Hope your marriage works out.

• Your wife definitely need counseling for her self mutation plus marriage counseling. Other than that, she is probably not going to forgive you until she work out her problems. Not what you wanted to hear but she has mental issues that need to be resolved.
• I think you did the right thing by call the cops. You did it for her safety and I am suprised that she still holds it against you. She should be thankful and happy that you called the cops before she did something that she would probably regret in the future.

  As far as restoring your happiness…it just takes time it won’t happen over night. Seek help which you are doing and go to church which is what you are doing….I think you are on the right track. Good luck to the both of you. Follow this link it is about saving your marriage you may find it to be helpful.

Hi, my girlfriend and I got a secret marriage done, we got it done in the islamic way, and we have been married for about 2 weeks now, but last week she asked me for a divorce.

The reason is i created a fake email account where I pretended to be one of my ex gf to make her a little jealous, i know that’s bad of me to do, but she would go on and on about the different guys that have proposed to her, and how great they are and how successful they are and it would make me burn inside and make me feel very bad, and jealous that she got so much attention and I got nothing.

What happened is that she thought it was my actual ex, and emailed her behind my back pretending to be me, and saying how there is still a chance, my wife found out it was me all along and got upset and said she cant trust me and respect me for what I did and how she cant be with someone who gets jealous of her, so she asked for a divorce.

I believe that she was wrong for going behind my back and emailing when we agreed to not email that fake account and the matter would of died there…in my religion the man can give the divorce, I believe this marriage can still work but she has not picked up my calls for 5 days…I need advice, do I leave her, can this work out or not?

I don’t want to lose my wife, I love her a lot, that’s why I married her.

Best Answer: If you told her the same thing you are explaining to us and she is still making a huge deal about it to the point she wants a divorce, I’d say she doesn’t love you enough to forgive you. And if she talks about how other guys proposed to her etc… I believe she doesn’t value you. It’s her fault you did this in the first place. If she insists on a divorce, “Good Riddance”. You’ll eventually find someone who loves you and values you. Someone who doesn’t play with marriage.

• Immaturity should never be brought into a relationship.A secret wedding, phony e-mail, all signs of two 16 year olds getting together after school. Quit now while you can and get married when you both are old enough to make adult decisions. Man or woman, I don’t care what you have between your legs, get a divorce and get mature!
• Playing games in a marriage wil never ever work out.

  Hence the situation you’re in.

  Talk to her NOW and let her know why you did it and never give her reason to doubt your fidelity again.

  Use your brain dude!

• If you really love her – leave her be. As I said previously. Real love is wanting the other person to be happy even if he/she does not include you in their life. That is true, unselfish love. It sadly escapes most.
• All this only two weeks after you got married? It seems you were nto ready at all to be married. You had so much to work out first.
• yall just need to grow up you seem like uve learned your lesson dont do stupid **** and as for her if she wants a divorce over thats then a. shes really insecure and b. she cant love you too much
• You love her a lot, that’s why you married her, then the both of you go sneaking around behind each others backs, looking for a place to stick the shivs. Normally, I hold that marriage is like the reinforced concrete that holds the Ft. Knox gold depository together, but you two are a real pair.

  Aren’t you two living together as wife and wife? She can’t be with someone who gets jealous of her? What does she expect a wife to do? Neither of you have never been married to a woman before, have you?

  From the sound of it this marriage is probably toast. Being a gay union it’s in a gray area of what your legal responsibilities are to each other. Either get a marriage counselor and find out if things can be fixed, or get a lawyer.

  And GROW UP! People who love each other don’t do things to make each other jealous in the first place. They only do things that make each other happy.

• Well I hate to be the one to tell you but your not a good liar and your wife knows that is why she didn’t believe you, that was you all along.
  What kind of husband would do some dumb shitt like that?? You setted yourself up with that one. My best advice would be to own up to your mistake tell her the honest truth cause no one in their right mind would believe such a story like that. So she can at least say well you did tell her the truth and rebuild the trust again the right way instead upon lies after lies.
• Why were false e-mail accounts made to create unnecessary problems? Why is the word “divorce” the first option before anything else?

  If you have married and you both want to honour that commitment then you should both try to sort this issue out by communicating. Perhaps try couple counselling if that is an option for you both.

My Korean girlfriend may be pregnant. I really don’t want my wife to find this out.

Although I will go through as many court motions as needed to delay my paternity from being verified, I have a feeling that it’s inevitable that if there is a child it will have my name on the birth certificate. I don’t mind suing her, but I’m just not sure it would do any good.

I’m not sure what the best way is to keep this from my wife.

So since suing my girlfriend isn’t a really good option, I was thinking about another route.

I met her on a missions trip and helped sponsor her arrival to America by getting her a job at my firm.

If I got her fired, would she have to be deported?

I’d miss our Wednesday night bible “study”, but I don’t deserve to be put in the middle of this.

Best Answer: I want to support you in this, but deep in my soul, I feel the urge to say BAHAHA BUSTED! I’m sorry- but my husband did this to me, I have no sympethy. I do however have advice (having just gone through it) The court is set up for the woman my friend. If you are not married to the girl in question you are immediately a dead beat dad, so prepare for a LOT of hassle from the system. Request a paternity test. If she’s willing to sleep with a married man, she’s obviously as loose on the morals as you are, and might have a boy toy you dont know about. If you ARE the father, ask her what involvment she wants you to have in the kid’s life. Your choices are this;
1. She’ll demand support, which you will have to pay. (which also entitles you to reasonable visitation)
2. She wont have the kid at all- I doubt cause you’re both christian types
3. She wont be fit to be a mother, and you’ll have custody.
4. She wont want you in the kid’s life at all, and will request you sign over your parental rights- which means you wont be on the birth certificate, and will not legally be his father anymore. Any way you look at it, your wife is gonna find out. Also- she’s now got an American kid- she’s officially eligible to become a citizen. You cant get her deported. Lastly there is no grounds for a suit. You’re in some hot water, boy- better get on them knees. maybe your wife will forgive- I forgave my husband.

• Jerk!
  And no she will just need to inform immigration that she is pregnant by an American and then the whole thing is out in the open when your wife is informed by government!
  Tell your wife now before it get ugly for everyone!
• hmmm thats wat u get for cheating!!!!!
• Got caught with your pants down!

  Shame on you!! Hopefully they will both let you go and not look back…

• you said:
  I met her on a missions trip and helped sponsor her arrival to America by getting her a job at my firm.

  Was your mission to cheat on your wife??? Take a good look at the ground your treading on….Does it smoke? Is it hot and look like brimstone???JEEZ….

• You don’t deserve to be put in the middle of this? You put yourself there when you decided it was okay to still date and sleep around as a married man. You also abused your power by getting this girl a visa by giving her a job. Deal with it.
• oh no you dont!!! It takes two TWO to tango!!! Face the music boy!!
• I think it’s time to step up and take some responsibility for your actions. Getting a girl pregnant, fired, and deported is about as shallow and irresponsible as it gets.

  You’ve put yourself in a predicament and only by meeting it straight up will you be able to learn and grow from the experience. Life is tough, but you must have some sense that using people and then throwing them under a bus is not the way to go.

  Have you no compassion for the child you have fathered?

• Hmmm…thanks for trying to dupe the younger, less knowledgable people here into thinking you’re a Christian. Your attack on Christianity is both ignorant and ridiculous. If you want to question us and to call us hypocrites, please do so. But if you’re going to attack us in a way that is not open-minded, perhaps you should do some searching within yourself and see what kind of person you are.

  If you really want to talk about what you feel is so bad about Christianity, I am willing to dialogue most any time.

• Heh heh… troll!
• I think you should fess up to your mistake. O you Deserve to be in the middle of this cause you got yourself in to this position are you kidding what kind of person are you anyway God will never forgive you if you can’t come clean and tell the truth how can you even go to church knowing you are a cheat and a lier sorry no sympathy for you.